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Multiple Birth Association for Parents of Mulitples

Feb 22, 2022 | 2 Minutes Read

When couples first find out they are expecting twins or higher order multiples (HOM), their initial feelings can be overwhelming. Concerns about how they will manage, money worries, and general anxiety over housing and space can occupy their minds. It can really help them to know they are not alone and that many other couples have, and are, experiencing the same rollercoaster of emotions.

Sharing an experience can really make a difference. Although it is tempting to think of ourselves and our feelings as terribly unique and individual, the truth is we share more similarities than differences.

Becoming a member of any support group starts with identifying yourself as “one of them.” Meeting the criteria to join an association is relatively simple: you need to either be expecting more than one baby or have had a multiple birth. Importantly, you also need to be willing to join. Membership is, of course, entirely voluntary.

In the United States there are more than 220 local clubs of the Multiples of America representing over 11,000 individual parents of multiples.

What are the benefits of joining a multiple birth association?

We all benefit from knowing that we fit into a group. Having shared interests and experiences unites us. There is an enormous sense of belonging which we gain from being part of a collective. Benefits include:
  • General friendship and shared communication about what it means to be a multiple birth parent.
  • Helps to avoid loneliness. Social networking opportunities can be built up and added to over the years.
  • Building networks of physical, emotional, and psychological support.
  • Friendship and relationship building with children. This helps them to know they are not the only twins, triplets, or quadruplets in their area.
  • Tips and suggestions from other multiple birth parents who have gone through the same experiences.
  • Education on all aspects of managing multiple births and caring for more than one baby. This can include visits from health professionals, lactation consultants and first aid instructors.
  • An opportunity to share what worked for you. There is much to be gained from helping others through challenging times.
  • Accessing information on multiple birth and caring for twins, triplets, and HOM.
  • Being part of a research group. Universities and hospitals often recruit parents from these associations as part of their sample population for research studies.
  • Being part of a group can be very beneficial for men, who may feel a lack of male camaraderie and support. The focus of multiple births is often understandably on the mother and her babies and some men may feel left out.
Many parents who initially met through shared membership of group find they develop lifelong friendships which are maintained long after their babies have grown up and are independent.

Resources available

Resources that may be available through connections with a multiple birth group include:
  • General baby equipment for rent or loan. Many groups hold garage sales or swap meets where items which are no longer used can be traded for something else.
  • Medical equipment which may be specific to premature or special needs babies.
  • Breast pump equipment rental. Dual pumps are expensive to buy.
  • Books and reference libraries.
  • DVDs and videos. These can relate to parenting and raising multiples but can also be relevant for children.
  • Children’s books.
  • Toys. Toy libraries are very useful as they are a great way to rotate toys and maintain children’s interest when the novelty of playing with the same toys has worn off.
  • Blogs and chat forums. With the explosion of digital technology, many parents find their first choice in seeking advice is from peer groups. Parents in focus groups report they value advice offered by other parents who are experiencing the same concerns as they are.

But I want to do it all myself!

In the early days of caring for multiples, many parents report they could not manage without the support of other caring adults. Not everyone has friends and family living nearby and sometimes it’s necessary to rely on newly found friends sourced through a multiple birth club. But like any collective group of adults, there will be some individuals you get on with very well and others not as much. Just because you share a common experience of having more than one baby does not guarantee a firm friendship.

But don’t be too dismissive: first impressions can be very wrong. Many close and abiding relationships have been forged from initial wariness and remember, a simple “Hi” is all that’s needed to break the ice.

Some multiple birth groups make up rosters of meal deliveries to new parents. This can make an enormous difference to getting through the early, exhaustive days of parenting. Others make themselves available for school drop-off and pick-ups for older, school-aged children and even homework supervision and play dates.

Living in a metropolitan city rather than a rural or regional area is obviously a bonus when it comes to sourcing a group. Some geographical areas are known for their higher-than-average multiple birth rates, raising suspicion about what’s been put in the water or air to cause such a spike in fertility amongst certain communities. Groups in these areas have robust membership. National Multiple Birth Awareness Month in the United States is April.

The information of this article has been reviewed by nursing experts of the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric, & Neonatal Nurses (AWHONN). The content should not substitute medical advice from your personal healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider for recommendations/diagnosis or treatment. For more advice from AWHONN nurses, visit Healthy Mom&Baby at health4mom.org.