Some moms have a way of going on and on about their kid’s accomplishments. Since you can’t stick your fingers in your ears and start humming, here are some other strategies.
Take pity. "Most of the time, parents who feel the need to compare their kids to yours or judge your parenting is more about their insecurity than anything else. I remind myself that we all try to make the best choices for our families. It’s the same thought behind this saying I once read: When someone is at peace with their choices, they never get offended when someone else chooses differently."
—Jennifer Canzeroni, mom of one, Dallas, Texas
Keep your distance, if necessary. "‘Mompetition’ drives me nuts. I have one friend who does this a lot, and I actually had to cut back on hanging out with her because it got hard to constantly hear how gifted her child is. Frankly, if your 3-year-old is doing physics and calculus, I don't need to know about it. I prefer my world where my kids have fun baking and playing Candy Land. I'm not rushing through these years."
—Erin Best Margolin, mom of two, Fairway, Kansas
Brag when bragging is called for. "My daughter has autism, and ‘typical’ developments have come with struggle and determination. I know what it’s like to feel insecure about your child’s progress. But when my kiddo learned her alphabet before all the other kids, I thought, It's my turn. So, yes, I bragged—and it felt good."
—Dani Gillman-Glickfield, mom of one, West Bloomfield, Michigan
Just agree. "As a preschool teacher,there’s nothing I haven’t seen before. Children develop in typical ways on a very predictable schedule. A child’s development is a miracle, though, and I would never want to take that away from a parent. So when a mom can’t resist telling me about their child’s latest accomplishment, I just remind myself that every parent sees their child as a miracle in progress and give them their moment of joy."
—Jayne Rosenberg, mom of two, Spokane, Washington