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Hands off the belly

Every pregnant woman gets used to being stared at, but sometimes those same people also want to touch. And that's where a lot of expectant moms want to draw the line.
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Huggies® mom question:

I'm expecting my first baby, and several of the older women at work like to play "pat the tummy" with my stomach. I am not much of a touchy-feely person, and them touching me like that seems like a total invasion of my personal space. I want them to stop, but I also don't want to be mean. How can I get them to back off, without alienating them totally?

The expert answers:

There must be something about pregnant women that makes others want to reach out and touch...almost like a moth drawn to a flame. I have always found that pregnant women either don't mind others touching their belly or they are so averse to it that they want to strike out at the person.

I think it would be fair to say that you fall into the latter category. There is nothing wrong with wanting others to keep their hands off your ever-expanding belly. Naturally, you don't want to be rude and yell, "Back off, Ladies, or you'll be sorry," but a more gentle approach, I am sure, would be quite effective.

Next time you see those hands reaching for a tummy pat, step back and with a smile say, "I think it must be my wild hormone levels, and I hope you don't mind, but having others touch my belly makes me uncomfortable." You can even try to cushion it (as to not cause hurt feelings) by adding, "I didn't mind it before, but my obstetrician said it happens sometimes."

And for all those out there who feel their hands being drawn to a swollen belly, remember, ask before you pat.

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    Rated 0 out of 5 by I do not like being touched. If asked I say no. If you touch me without asking I will hit your hand. I only let my kids and husband touch me when I put their hand on my belly. September 21, 2014
    Rated 0 out of 5 by I let people touch my stomach if they want to but I have never liked my stomach being touched. September 10, 2014
    Rated 0 out of 5 by dont let it bother you people will wonder no matter what April 3, 2014
    Rated 0 out of 5 by It bothered me when people touched my stomach. But it infuriated me when they actually kissed it!!! December 15, 2013
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