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Mommy Competition: How To Deal

Mommy Competition: How To Deal
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Some moms have a way of going on and on about their kid’s accomplishments. Since you can’t stick your fingers in your ears and start humming, here are some other strategies.

Take pity. "Most of the time, parents who feel the need to compare their kids to yours or judge your parenting is more about their insecurity than anything else. I remind myself that we all try to make the best choices for our families. It’s the same thought behind this saying I once read: When someone is at peace with their choices, they never get offended when someone else chooses differently."
—Jennifer Canzeroni, mom of one, Dallas, Texas

Keep your distance, if necessary. "‘Mompetition’ drives me nuts. I have one friend who does this a lot, and I actually had to cut back on hanging out with her because it got hard to constantly hear how gifted her child is. Frankly, if your 3-year-old is doing physics and calculus, I don't need to know about it. I prefer my world where my kids have fun baking and playing Candy Land. I'm not rushing through these years."
—Erin Best Margolin, mom of two, Fairway, Kansas

Brag when bragging is called for. "My daughter has autism, and ‘typical’ developments have come with struggle and determination. I know what it’s like to feel insecure about your child’s progress. But when my kiddo learned her alphabet before all the other kids, I thought, It's my turn. So, yes, I bragged—and it felt good."
—Dani Gillman-Glickfield, mom of one, West Bloomfield, Michigan

Just agree. "As a preschool teacher,there’s nothing I haven’t seen before. Children develop in typical ways on a very predictable schedule. A child’s development is a miracle, though, and I would never want to take that away from a parent. So when a mom can’t resist telling me about their child’s latest accomplishment, I just remind myself that every parent sees their child as a miracle in progress and give them their moment of joy."
—Jayne Rosenberg, mom of two, Spokane, Washington

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  • Rated 0 out of 5 by 5reviewers.
    Rated 0 out of 5 by My sister-in-law (elder brother's wife) had her baby 2 weeks before me and it has been quite interesting. Sometimes, when I share my son's development with my mum, I find her almost telling me my nephew's development too. This could be hard to stomach sometimes, as all I want to do is celebrate my son especially because I am far from home. But as it is, my son always beats the "pack". December 13, 2013
    Rated 0 out of 5 by My friend's baby boy is 4 days younger than mine. He crawls, pulls up on everything in sight, cruises, etc. It feels like she's always rubbing it in my face and its depressing sometimes. Then I watch my little man scooting around the best he can and try to stand up without holding on to anything at all and it all goes away. My little man is growing at his own pace and doing things his way. January 20, 2013
    Rated 0 out of 5 by sometimes its nice to hear about what other parents are doing with there kids, however, I have a 4 month old and also my sister has a 6 month old, and so she is always comparing my little girl to her little girl about her weight, if her baby is smaller than mine,... and after awhile it makes me mad October 14, 2012
    Rated 0 out of 5 by I have worked with all kinds of kiddos but now that I have my own I get nervous about what is typical and what is not. It is nice to hear other people's thoughts September 9, 2011
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