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Hands off the belly

Every pregnant woman gets used to being stared at, but sometimes those same people also want to touch. And that's where a lot of expectant moms want to draw the line.
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Huggies® mom question:

I'm expecting my first baby, and several of the older women at work like to play "pat the tummy" with my stomach. I am not much of a touchy-feely person, and them touching me like that seems like a total invasion of my personal space. I want them to stop, but I also don't want to be mean. How can I get them to back off, without alienating them totally?

The expert answers:

There must be something about pregnant women that makes others want to reach out and touch...almost like a moth drawn to a flame. I have always found that pregnant women either don't mind others touching their belly or they are so averse to it that they want to strike out at the person.

I think it would be fair to say that you fall into the latter category. There is nothing wrong with wanting others to keep their hands off your ever-expanding belly. Naturally, you don't want to be rude and yell, "Back off, Ladies, or you'll be sorry," but a more gentle approach, I am sure, would be quite effective.

Next time you see those hands reaching for a tummy pat, step back and with a smile say, "I think it must be my wild hormone levels, and I hope you don't mind, but having others touch my belly makes me uncomfortable." You can even try to cushion it (as to not cause hurt feelings) by adding, "I didn't mind it before, but my obstetrician said it happens sometimes."

And for all those out there who feel their hands being drawn to a swollen belly, remember, ask before you pat.

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  • Rated 0 out of 5 by 7reviewers.
    Rated 0 out of 5 by i know how you feel there its hard not to hurt feelings when you dont want your tummy pated at all i find that most peaple find it hard to risest when you get to your at the bigs point October 15, 2013
    Rated 0 out of 5 by I am very big on personal space too! I'm not Buddha, rubbing my belly does not bring you luck, please stop :) but unfortunately it's inevitable. October 7, 2013
    Rated 0 out of 5 by It's probably a good time to politely establish some personal boundaries as after the baby is born you'll have to deal with people wanting to touch/hold the baby. October 23, 2012
    Rated 0 out of 5 by I have a 5 month old baby now, and when I was pregnant with him I had a lot of people wanting to touch my belly. For the most part I was ok with it, but sometimes I just needed my space. When I did need that hands off time I would just tell the person that my belly wasn't feeling good (which happened at times), or that it wasn't a good day to touch baby. That was with friends and my church family... with strangers I only had to deal with the touching thing a couple of times and I let them, almost reluctantly, because what do you say when they ask so politely? I think if I didn't trust the person asking I would have said no thank you... most of the time it was just lots of people staring or giving smiles though. January 10, 2012
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